Tuesday, January 30, 2007

Valentines day gift options for men...

Two very lovely bloggers inspired this post...

They had questions about what to get their husband's for Valentine's day. Now thank you Favored girl and Belissima for the question that's probably on a lot of minds...

Now as a personal shopper this has got to be the number the question I get asked the most. Most people contact me for that reason and depending on what they have done in the past , I have to ask a lot of questions to know what to suggest...

My response on the other hand tends to change depending on the occasion. In this instance , lets focus on Valentines day. Ladies, it is BORING to get guys shirts for this occasion. I wouldnt want a suit for Valentine's day , would you?? I am sorry but it happens to be true. Clothes could work for Christmas, Father's day and birthdays... but during the sexiest , most romantic time of the year? I think NOT!!

Here are a few suggestions that range from free, to Luxury...
They are also not listed in any particular order...
  1. Have a romantic dinner. Yes ladies, you can set this up too. It is no longer just something a man can do. You can set those candles up, get a sitter and have a candlelight dinner with either food you have a chef cooking for you, ordered or cooked yourself (no one has to know)
  2. Same concept as above, making it more elaborate by adding on dessert (chocolate covered strawberries, chocolates or whatever tickles your fancy) in the bathtub with a large scented candle or two no other lights needed...
  3. Adding onto the above, take step this to the next level and take him to bed and take care of your man! I am sure that if you have been with him longer than a month , you know him well enough to know how to turn him on. For most women, its a bit tough to take the lead and initiate sex...this would be the right time to try. Never think about embarrassing yourself, because if I am guessing correctly, most people wait for their husbands to do the prodding... he will be too shocked to notice how nervous you are (that is if your not a professional at this already!) Oh and get out the sexy lingerie, no oversized t-shirts allowed!!
  4. Ok...all sexiness aside(as none of the above will make me a dime- LOL!!!) Now for physical gifts, I tend to do the items that are luxurious (the long sought after LV wallet, messenger bag etc), not everyday, run of the mill gifts... If he is an active individual, then get him a gift bungee jumping( I know it might be too scary for some) , 4x4 off road driving (you can do it too, I have and its FUN!!), indoor skydiving...or even get him to drive the car of his dreams (yes you can rent a porsche /ferrari /lamborghini for an hour and rock his world)... that is if he isn't already driving his dram car....The options are numerous. Just type in unusual gifts in your browser and you will be surprised at your options. If you need more help...ASK ME!!
  5. Buying your man "sexy" underwear, silk or satin pajamas ( trust me, men like it too) cologne (not my favorite, but its an option), a nice tech toy (because its something he will savor),I would even do a very jazzy tie before I did a shirt... no offence ladies, but imagine yourself taking the tie off and using it? Hey maybe I am a little selfish as I wear my hubby's ties...so they HAVE to be fierce!!
  6. Spa - yesssssssssssssssssssssss. Men do go to the spa too. The only way to get him to go would be to go with him. It might cost yo a pretty penny, but its well worth it. There are tons of places that cater to both sexes, and even give you both facials, massages, pedicures, manicures and scrubs. For men, i think the scrub and massage (you don't have to really do both) are very good choices. Don't think its nude, most times its not,(maybe semi... we prefer nude as I feel cleaner) but remember you have a choice in that matter and if you re up for it, they will be too...this is also a way to take your relationship to another level...its kind of late right now to get slots for V-day, so you might have to do it a few days after or before...
  7. Men love jewelry too...
  8. If all else fails I guess we can always go back to the shirt :)

Don't be afraid to try new things...

I don't know your men, so everything really depends on them. But surprising them , by going out of your way to do something you know they would like, even if its something you normally complain about, will take your relationship a long way. Did I mention Lapdances?? Men are really just kids at heart... they love treats. It also raises the stakes as he will feel he has to top your gift

What were the best and worst presents you got or gave someone for Valentine's day??

I gave a few of mine above obviously!! Check back later for my post on the worst!!

Enjoy!!

13 comments:

Kemi said...

Off to return the shirt, Just kidding. Need to get a teach yourself lapdance/poledance tape and seven veils!! Was actually going to ignore Valentines this year, bit of a bah humbug general feeling. Now I can't use the excue that I don't know what to get. Thanks Remi. The Spa is not a bad idea or might get one of those Experience ticket for a day driving a formula one car. Hmm. Can I get myself a gift too?

Omara said...

I looove your ideas, especially the bath and candles. Nice! What exactly do you do as a personal shopper? How do you get paid?

suburbannaijamom said...

my new motto for valentines is no expectations, no disappointments. i have always gone all out on valentines day but what i get in return. u will laugh i think i got a card a teddy bear, dinner n movies. n the yr b4 3cards. at least he remembered ey.

what did he get?
last yr, i woke up early , left the house so he wouldn't wake up to me at home. i had the nanny give the girls a card to give to him when he woke up. he went to work, n when he got off, there was a card on his windscreen with instructions to look in his trunk. in there is one of his suits and shoes wiv a tie. in the suit jacket is another card that clues him as to where to find me in a riddle form ( i really pushed it withthat one cos he almost couldn't figure out the riddle but he did eventually. he gets to the place, its a mariner. there is another card waiting for him at the door which gives him a table number. pretty much its a candle lit dinner on a cruising boat. after wards, i had an hotel rm booked 4 the nite.


the yr br, he got home from work, and on the floor at the entrance is a trail of petals that leads all the way upstairs to the bathroom. the jacuzzi is filled with nice hot water n more rose petals, there is a glass of wine and a plate of chocolate covered straawberries n a card that tells him how long to stay in the tub. there is another trail of petals waiting that leads him to the bed room where i set up a table with dinner 4 two by candle light with me waiting in a nice lingerie. u wont belive tha after we were done eating, we both climbed in bed n fell asleep.

so this yr. i ain't planning a darn thing. if he can't step up to the plate then too bad. i think i have set up the bar n when is he ever gonna get creative n outdo me? shoo, i am done. i just hope i get atleast sex this yr.

Bella Naija said...

Thanks Remi!
Ha ha...sometimes I am just stumped when it comes to getting a gift for the man....I admit that I have done the shirt gift thing (hides heanice ideas!
Meanwhile, surburban naija mum....pele girll...maybe the tide will turn this year! But I have to give u kudos for ur previous efforts - top notch!

Bluntremi said...

@Kemi , youre more than welcome!! Even though all of the things i listed arent typically Nigerian things to do, they do make life a lot more fun!!

@Omara, thx for visiting!! As a perosnal shopper and stylist , I shop and style people. I get those elusive deals for people and pass on the savings to them and I charge a fee to do it. I can either shop for you from afar (after several consultations), or take you out shopping (and charge an hourly rate) and I also sell items as well... check out my website, its the first site on my profile.

Before we start, i tell you my terms once we figure out what you need and i take a deposit...in any form that is convenient (check, cc or cash:) )

Bluntremi said...

@SNB-
AWESOME!! You truly threw down and I am so proud of you!!!

One thing I am going to say is that I realized a very long time ago that some men have it while some dont! Nothing intentional, its just the way it is ... some were born romantic , even in naija. While some wouldnt know what romance was even if they were hit with arrow from CUPID!!

Goodluck this year, and let us know how it goes ...

@Bella , youre more than welcome!! There are tons more ideas, so getin touch with me if you feel the need to ask more questions!!

Favoured Girl said...

Wow, girl thanks for the ideas! LOL, I know the shirt one was too easy, at least all I had to do was get his size. Hmmm, some of your ideas need planning though, cos hubby gets home from work before I do. As per activities, he's into football, so I could get some football-themed gift items, or I could treat myself to some sexy lingerie for HIS benefit...lol. Thanks!!

omohemi Benson said...

Great Ideas that will work,only if I get married to a non-Nigerian,but even if he is foreigner he had better be damn romantic to appreciate these gifts.
Thanks for the ideas.

@surbannaija mom,
I like you,you are sooo creative.
I pray this year's valentine turns out to be an awesome surprise.

Bluntremi said...

@Favored, youre very welcome!! have to get around to posting the ladies version...

@ Omohemi, I actually beg to differ... my husband is Nigerian, and I know of SEVERAL Nigerian men who this would work for. The problem is, that a lot of people feel that once they are married (also depends on why you got married in the first place...especially if it wasnt for love) they dont have to do anything more, and they just let the romance go...
Its sad but very , very true. If youre married, try it, try something dinner, you dont have to go all out, but something out of the ordinary is fun...you really have nothing to lose, do you??

Mohammed said...

Hi,
Interesting idea about valentines day gift.Yes of course,during valentines day,everyone will presents a variety of gifts,and the idea about treat also too fine and too romantic also.
I saw in one of the website for valentines day gifts in which there is a good collections.

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ANTHONY SHIMPS said...

THANK YOU so so much for this idea. i used it on all my presents this year. i just posted about it so i hope you'll go check it out to see how they came out! thanks again!

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